Recently I was involved in a conversation with a group of people at work about the state of relationships as they exist today and how they differ from years gone by.Finally one person asked the following question: “Is marriage taken seriously anymore?”
Immediately after the question was asked people began to chime in on such things as gay marriage, civil marriage, plural marriage and even no marriage.A few mentioned that they believed that the institution of marriage was a thing of the past – that it was, at one time, only a means by which “women” were taken care of but nowadays women are very capable of taking care of themselves so marriage was no longer necessary.Huh?Well that response clearly had no religious understanding behind it.Others believed it still was taken seriously but had a different significance and that significance was the fact that people no longer had to feel “trapped” in an unfavorable marriage.There was no longer any stigma associated with divorce and so, in their opinion, marriage now comes with a lot less constraints and restrictions.My thought on that response was, “What constitutes as being unfavorable?”
For a number of years I worked for a sole-practitioner who handled several divorce cases.One case that I remember was a couple that had been married for one year.The wife came in asking for a divorce because, and these were her words, “I am tired of asking him to take out the trash.I am not going to put up with that any longer.I warned him and now I want a divorce.”To her, her husband’s lack of taking out the trash to her specification made her marriage “unfavorable”.Really?Is that a legitimate reason to get a divorce?Apparently so because she got it and her case of a trivial reason was not the only one we handled.So, yes, the comment made by my co-worker that there is no longer a stigma attached to being divorced is correct but is that really a good thing?
So it came to be my turn to answer the question on whether marriage is taken seriously anymore and here is how I responded:
“The resounding answer to that question is an unequivocable NO.Why? - Because this world has lost its values, its morals and its love for God and the family unit.In the past the family was the central core of any human’s existence.You loved, worked, lived and breathed for the unity of the family.The family consisted of a father, a mother, siblings and grandparents.Everything you did in life was to help strengthen and nurture that family unit and, in return, your reward was learning and understanding about yourself and knowing that you were not alone in this world.As a child you grew up in a family unit and learned what it would take to find, create and sustain your own family one day and the first part of that journey was to find a mate – not only someone to love and be best friends with but who held your same values, who would stand by you through thick and thin, who would be your sounding board, your strength, your confidant, your advisor, your spiritual helpmate.That relationship you knew would need to be nurtured and not taken lightly or for granted.It would be a relationship that would take a lot of work and self sacrifice but it would most definitely in the end be worth it.Building a strong relationship between you and your spouse was paramount to creating a strong family unit for your children.In the past, everyone knew and understood this and that is why marriage was taken very seriously.It was understood that it was to be a lifelong commitment.You knew that there would be bad times, horrible times and hard times but you also knew that there would be spectacular times, inspiring times, uplifting times and joyous times.As the hair on your heads turned grey, you and your spouse could look back and realize, together, that you wouldn’t have changed a thing – not even the bad for, in reality, that is when you learned and grew the most.
Today – people are different.Gone almost completely is the love for the family unit.God has very little to do with anything – He only gets in the way.In their place we have found selfishness and feelings and beliefs of self-entitlements.Today people think the world revolves around them and them only.It’s all about what I want, what I like, what I feel – me, me, me and more me.If the other person in your life doesn’t give you what you want you simply discard them.Children are seen as a burden not as a blessing (notice how pet stores have sprung up over just the past 20 years – their less burdensome).Why? – Because children hinder upon their finances and freedom to do whatever, whenever.There are no moral or spiritual commitments to anyone or anything.In fact, anything that even hints at being moral or spiritual is spat upon or quickly brushed aside as irrelevant and infantile.Why? – Because both moral and spiritual values entail sacrifice of self – a totally foreign concept for the entitlees of today.The entitlees of today will tell you that they are freer to express themselves – to be themselves – whatever lifestyle that may entail.That is truly comical because if they could only stand back and take a real hard look at themselves they would easily see that it is they who have become enslaved to a corrupt, addictive mentality that, in the end, will only bring them heartache, loneliness and deep despair.It is the very loss of the seriousness of marriage and all that it entails that has and continues to corrode the foundation of the entire world.It is why the children of today flounder in knowing who they are, what their purpose is, what their value is and what kind of future will they have.Without having the strong bond and values of a family unit solidified through marriage, they are lost.We have an entire generation that is traveling down a road to nowhere.”
I do believe that there are circumstances that warrant a divorce – those that entail physical and/or emotional abuse – severe and persistent abuse not just a one time thing.Marriage is work – hard work – unending work although it does get a lot easier as we age and get a history behind us.It is not all sunflowers and roses.It also entails thorns, splinters and spasms.This is what you sign on for when you make the decision to get married.You don’t go running when times get a little rough but society today echoes the very opposite.Today’s mentality is – I don’t like that so I’m out of here.Divorcing is easy.In fact, today if you have never been divorced you are looked at as though there is something wrong with you.To me, that mind thinking is what is wrong but it reflects the average opinion of what marriage is today.It’s mostly used as a tax shelter but the laws are revolving to eliminate that so marriage is on a drastic decline and as it continues to decline, so shall we all.
If we want to fix this we need to once again hold marriage as sacred.We need to honor each other and grow together – not follow selfish different pathways.And, above all, we need to bring God back into the picture because if He isn’t there – then nothing else will ever really matter.
Do you
remember a time when decency reigned in this country?Oh, for sure, people had differences of
opinions, beliefs and value systems but overall we treated each other with
respect and that was especially true when it came to young people and
adults.As a child (and I use this term
broadly to include small children all the way up through high school age), you
respected all adults whether they were your parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles,
teachers, police officers, librarians, etc.You may not have always agreed with the adults but you never argued with
them, cursed at them, berated them, ignored them and outright bullied them.Just the thought of doing any such things
would frighten and repulse you.Unfortunately, those feelings and opinions are no longer recognized or
adhered to by today’s youth.
As most
people are well aware of by now, just this past week in upstate New York a 68 year old
grandmother who worked as a school bus monitor was maliciously and repeatedly
maligned and bullied on a school bus by 12 and 13 year old students.Foul language was repeatedly hurled at her,
derogatory remarks about her weight were spewed upon her over and over again,
reference to “stabbing” her was uttered in gleeful laughter, and when she
cried, insults increased.Not one ounce
of compassion was shown to her.Not one
student stood up to her defense.Not
even the bus driver did a thing.How is
it that our youth of today have grown to be so callous, so uncompassionate, so
hateful and so disrespectful to what should be so precious and so dear?
Political
Correctness and Child Protective Services: Destroyers of the Family.
As I have
written in prior posts, political correction has done a massive amount of
damage in how our society has and is evolving.Nowadays it is nearly impossible for a parent to teach their children
about what is right and what is wrong and what is real truth and what is
absolute lies.Why?Because the political correctness
bandwagoners loudly scream out foul play.To them, nothing is wrong and anything or anyone teaching otherwise is
teaching hatred.So, from this warped
thinking comes a generation that is being reared with no value system – no
concept of right and wrong – and most certainly no understanding of
consequences to actions.
But the
political correctness craze is not the only factor in the downfall of today’s
youth.Child Protective Services (CPS)
has also played a huge role in the degradation of the values of youth when it
comes to their interaction with their fellowmen and especially as they relate
to any adult authority.Again, as I
wrote about in an earlier post, CPS defines “anything” that makes you feel uncomfortable
as being an act of abuse.If a teacher
tells you to do a homework assignment and that makes you feel uncomfortable,
then the child is to deem the teacher as an abuser.If a parent asks a child to clean up their
room or tells him or her that they cannot go out late at night or that they
cannot wear a questionable outfit, then that child is free to make the
determination that the parent’s limitation on them is an act of abuse against
them.If a child works and their boss
tells them to do something that they don’t want to (which makes them feel
uncomfortable) then the boss is considered an abusive person.The list goes on and on to the point that
anything any adult does or says is to be considered “abusive” by the youth of
today.Since the youth see all adults as
abusers, they believe that they have no obligation to show any of them any
respect, any compassion and certainly not any feelings that the adults are even
human beings.CPS has instilled in them
that they are all powerful, all mighty and that the world should revolve around
them and their wants and, of course, that they can do no wrong.It is under these brainwashing concepts that
the students onboard that New York
school bus treated the bus monitor as they did.They believed it was their right and their prerogative to treat her as
they wished since she was, in their eyes, a non-human, invaluable thing that
deserved what she got for their misconceived determinations that she was an
“abuser” of their freedom to do whatever.
Don’t be fooled by
hollow apologies.
Since the
video of the bullying of the bus monitor spread throughout the airwaves, the
students involved in the incident have come forward, crying that they were
sorry for what they did.Don’t believe
them.They’re not sorry for what they
did but are sorry that their “fun” was received with shock and outrage.Some have received a lot of threats in
return.I do not condone those threats
but I do condone the treatment they are receiving as at least a showing of
consequences for their actions.I hope
in time that their faked apologies today will, in the long run, after their
consequences die down, impact them enough to make them want to become better
human beings themselves.After all, they
won’t be youths forever and will one day sit in the bus monitor’s seat as an adult,
a parent, a grandparent.
What we must do to
change the course of the youth.
We, as
adults, cannot sit back any longer as our youth slip away into darkness and
corruption.If we want the youth to
change, we have got to stand up against a society that is warring against our
value system.Stand up against political
correctness, make CPS accountable for the acts that they have aroused, be firm
in teaching right and wrong.Point out
what is real truth and what is falsely indoctrinated into them.BE PARENTS – not submissive friends afraid to
act because if you, as parents, don’t act then this generation will truly be
lost forever.
Child Protective Services (CPS) – Now if there was ever an oxymoron this so called agency would have to be at the top of the list.CPS was originally established in 1974 and its main purpose was to study and investigate possible incidents of reported child abuse.After conducting a thorough and complete investigation, the agency was to determine whether or not the abuse was actual or unsubstantiated.If the abuse was actual then the agency was to report same to the appropriate legal authorities and then aid the legal authorities in providing recommendations for resolving the incidents such as providing counseling, follow-up reviews and, in the most severe cases, removal of the child from their home and placing them either with other relatives as a first line of protection or, as a last resort, into foster care.Over the past few decades, however, CPS has transformed itself into being the biggest and deadliest perpetrator of child abuse this nation has ever encountered.How do they get away with it?Simply put – the agency has virtually no accountability for any of its actions whatsoever.
I do not believe there is anyone who actually believes that child abuse does not exist in our society.Clearly it does and the most egregious cases of abuse have made the headline news.The brutality, gruesomeness, ungodly atrocities that innocent children have had to endure under the hands of caregivers goes beyond what any normal human’s mind can grasp.It is appalling and heart-wrenching and our collective anger that such horrors have been able to occur has, in part, played into the hands of CPS.We, as a society, naively placed our trust into CPS believing that they would “protect” the innocent.We told them to “do what you have to” to stop the abuse.What we didn’t do, however, was to provide them with specific guidelines of what is to be considered as actual abuse.In essence, we gave them a blank check because we didn’t want to deal with the problem directly and CPS was all too happy to comply with our wishes.
CPS’s Standard for Classification of Substantiated Abuse
I find it rather interesting that just a few decades ago child abuse almost didn’t exist at all.No one even heard of it or, at the very least, no one certainly knew of anyone who was abused or who was being abused and no one considered themselves as being abused.Why then is it that over the past 20 to 30 years the number of supposed abuse cases reported in our nation has skyrocketed into the millions per year?In fact, in 1993 CPS reported that “there are 60 million survivors of childhood abuse in America.”Really?60 million?How can that be?To answer that question we have to look at what CPS classifies as “abuse”.
Elementary, Middle and High Schools across our land have been, and are continuing to be, visited by agents of CPS.These agents attend classes and instruct our children on what abuse is.For the most part, parents are never notified of these visits.CPS’s justification for this is that they want the “children to feel safe in discussing any issue that goes on in their home without fear of ‘retaliation’ from their parents.”This mindset instills in our children that there should be a “wedge” between them and their parents, that they must keep secrets from their parents and that all parents are perpetrators – I mean, don’t all parents “retaliate” against their children?According to CPS – the answer is a resounding “yes”.And what does the CPS agent tell our children what is defined as being abuse?CPS’s guideline for what constitutes abuse is “anything anyone says or does that makes you feel uncomfortable is a form of abuse.”That’s it – that’s the whole guideline – ANYTHING that makes you feel uncomfortable.In addition, the agent instructs the children to report anything that makes them feel uncomfortable to their teachers, their school counselors, the police or call and report it to CPS but do not let your parents know you are reporting them.So, what does that mean to you and me?If you ask your child to take out the trash and that act makes him or her feel “uncomfortable” then they are to consider your action as being abusive to them and they, in turn, can report you to either their teachers, school counselors, the police or CPS and, believe me, you WILL be investigated for it and your name will go on a report as a possible child abuser.You should also know that the child does NOT have to prove anything and if and when the supposed abuse incident is deemed unsubstantiated, there is no accountability to the child for making the report.Again, you should be aware of the fact that the “accused” in a child abuse matter is always deemed “guilty” until he or she can prove that they are innocent.
In studying up on this issue, I came across several ridiculous stories of supposed child abuse but I decided to list here the two that most affected me.The first took place just a few years ago in Florida when a 9 year old boy reported to his teacher at school that his parents refused to buy him a TV for his bedroom.This was very upsetting to him.The teacher reported it to his school counselor who in turn reported it to CPS.Two CPS agents, along with two police officers, showed up at the boy’s house on a claim of “emotional abuse”.The parents were stunned.They advised the CPS agents that they had made the determination not to let any of their children have a TV in their bedrooms as it distracted them from doing their homework and sleeping at night.The CPS agents told the parents that they “needed parental counseling” and if they did not buy a TV for their son that he would be “removed” from the home and placed in foster care.It was their determination that this was a substantiated case of child abuse and if the parents did not comply, not only would the boy be removed from the home but so would the other children.One of the agents then announced that if the parents did not consent to purchasing the TV at that very moment, then the police officers with them would remove their son right then.Frightened, the parents verbally consented and a week later the CPS agents and police officers returned to the home and visually inspected the boy’s room to witness that the boy now had a TV.
In the second incident, a 7 year old girl was sitting in her classroom and her teacher noticed she had gum stuck in her hair.The teacher asked the girl about the gum and was told that her mother had given her a piece of gum after dinner the night before and, after chewing it for a while, she had placed it under her pillow.She claimed it must have gotten stuck in her hair during the night and she didn’t want to tell her mother about it because her mother would get mad at her.The teacher then sent the child to her school counselor to report the incident.Later that very afternoon two CPS agents and police officers showed up at the girl’s home.The CPS agents stated they were there to investigate the mother because the daughter was “fearful” of her and what her mother would “do to her”.The mother, at that point, naturally had no idea what was going on.She was questioned, however, on why her daughter was so fearful of her.The little girl was present for this questioning and after watching her mother being hounded by the CPS agents, looked at her mother and said, “Mommy’s a bad person.”One of the agents pulled the little girl into her arms and told her, “Don’t worry.We’re here to protect you.”At some point the father came home during the interrogation and the CPS agents ended with giving him an ultimatum between either having them take the child into protective care or having the mother leave the home until she could be fully investigated.Bewildered, the mother left the home.It took 30 days for the investigation report to come back stating that the mother could now return to the home but that CPS would be keeping an eye on her.At no point was the gum issue ever brought up by the CPS agents.
Both of these incidents seem totally unbelievable.Certainly these didn’t really happen – but they did – and countless others like them.In fact, the numbers are staggering.Now you can see why today the reported cases of supposed child abuse runs into the millions.But what is equally if not more frightening in all of this is the fact that CPS is never, never, never held accountable for any of it.They just swoop in, breaking all kinds of legal laws – which I will not go into detail in this posting but will do so in another – destroying families, individual lives, careers, – the list goes on and on – just because their standard is that “anything” constitutes as abuse.
What’s in it for CPS?
We can no longer feign ignorance when it comes to CPS.And, although even I believe there are agents in the system who truly do desire to help the helpless victims of “real” abuse, even they are thwarted by the whole CPS establishment because, in truth, CPS has turned from an agency of protection to a business of big bucks and, since it’s a governmental body – that should be no surprise to anyone.So what’s in it for CPS?
For every child that CPS removes from the home and places them into foster care, the federal government pays that local agency $30,000.00.In addition, the parents are charged for the financial care of the child.If the child is handicapped, depending on the kind of handicap, the amount increases to between $40,000.00 and $150,000.00 per child.If the child is then “adopted” by a new family, an additional $4,000.00 bonus is given - $6,000.00 for adoption of a special needs child.The CPS agent who physically removes the child is given a commission from the government’s fund.The more kids removed – the more commission – the bigger the personal financial gain.On the other hand, if a child is allowed to remain in the home or is returned to the parental home, the CPS agency and agent receives nothing.Agents are, therefore, encouraged to remove children to help generate more funding for the agency.
CPS is a corrupt agency.
In November 2007, Georgia’s State Senator Nancy Schaefer published a report on CPS.Entitled, “The Corrupt Business of Child Protective Services,” Senator Shaefer’s report found, among other things, that CPS “issued unfair judgment on families without compassion and imposed unreasonable and impossible demands on the families that separated families and greatly stressed parents; law enforcement agencies routinely ignore complaints made against CPS; CPS receives extra funding for removing children from the home; fraud, fabrication, withholding and destroying of evidence, unnecessary termination of parental rights and then citing confidentiality clause to protect themselves; CPS gives kick backs to employees, lawyers, court investigators, guardian ad litems, judges, psychologists, psychiatrists, counselors, case workers, foster parents and others; CPS often interprets parental cooperation as an admittance of guilt; parents are treated as criminals; and children are in more danger in CPS care than in their own homes.”In fact, case studies revealed that children in the care of CPS are 600% more likely to die a violent death.So you tell me – who is the real abuser?
Senator Nancy Schaefer's Follow-Up on the Corruption in 2008
In 2008 Georgia Senator Nancy Schaefer did a follow-up on her report on the corruption in CPS and detailed how deep it went. Below is a video of Senator Schaefer's report. Just a few months after this video was made, Senator Schaefer and her husband were murdered. Although the media initially called Ms. Schaefer's death a murder/suicide, ongoing investigations have revealed more. It is now believed by many that Ms. Schaefer was actually "silenced" as her exposure could have cost CPS millions upon millions of dollars if counteraction was taken against them. The case remains open.
Parents Unite!
With the unchecked accountability that CPS has awarded itself, I foresee the future as even more bleak then it is today - most certainly so if we collectively stand by and allow it to continue.Many people turn a blind eye on the situation because they have not been a personal “victim” of CPS but I warn you – you’re time is coming.It’s time now for parents and grandparents to unite and start holding CPS accountable.Acquaint yourselves with the legal laws that, in reality, are there to protect you but for which far too many of us do not invoke.Understand that, legally, CPS has NO power – they are NOT a legal agency.That’s why they often show up with police officers – not that the police will do anything but they try to give you the illusion that they can.Beware that CPS agents will try to incite you to take an action that the police can then get involved.Don’t let them incite you – no matter how many false accusations they themselves will most likely make against you.The truth is, they cannot legally take a child from your home without a court order.In fact, if CPS agents show up on your doorstep, you can ask them to leave your premises and if they have anything to say, they are to contact your lawyer.You do not have to have any direct dealings with them.You actually have the power but thy use intimidation and blindsiding tactics to make you think you are helpless and that they have all the power.THEY DON’T.
In order to make a real change, however, we need to do more.Yes, an agency should exist to help those who are truly being brutally abused but we need to enforce strict guidelines of what constitutes abuse.We need to make certain that every single report is thoroughly investigated first before anyone is classified as a “possible abuser”.Before such classification is made, the allegation must be proven to be accurate without question.We need to make those investigations “open” so that both accuser and accused can be fully apprised of what the issues are and what is happening.We need to create checks and balances of the investigations so no biases are imposed by individual agents.We need the accuser to have to provide evidence of their allegations.And, finally, we need to outline consequences to be inflicted upon those who make false allegations and agents who abuse their role.This type of system and accountability is fair to all sides.Oh, and one other thing, we as parents need to pressure schools to stop hiding their tactics of alienating parents and children.If CPS agents are to come to the schools – then parents MUST be notified and ALLOWED to attend the classroom.No one or no agency has the right to ignore parental rights.
Will this change happen?It can if we unite.Already cases are making their way through the courts who are ruling against CPS agencies but these are few and far in-between.If we put repeated and unintimidating pressure on them, however, then they, in order to survive on any level, will have to change.We better act fast though because if something doesn’t change soon – we will lose all of our children and they, in turn, will never really know what it is like to be a parent because there will no longer be any such thing as parental rights.
I’ve thought long and hard about this posting, mainly because it’s a very sensitive topic to me personally and secondly because I believe the word “abuse” is pandered around too frequently making almost any action a person takes somehow destructive to another human being.We can thank Child Protective Services (CPS) for this overused and misdirected concept of what truly constitutes abuse.
As an example of the misdirected verbiage of abuse, not that long ago the headlines ran a story about a school personnel taking away the lunch of a student because it did not meet some bureaucrat’s definition of a healthy lunch.There was a meat sandwich and piece of fruit included in the lunch the mother provided but the mother of that child was verbally deemed to be “abusive” to her child for not providing the child with a mandated healthy lunch (again determined by some moron bureaucrat).Was that really “abusive” behavior?Since when can a parent not make a determination of what their child can or cannot take to school as a lunch?If the child wants a bag full of candy for lunch (not that I would recommend that outside of letting them get sick to prove that eating a bag of candy is probably not the most wisest decision) then it’s no-one else’s business.I have a nephew who, as a young child, would only eat cereal.The doctor told us that if that’s what he wants then just let him eat it – it certainly wasn’t making him unhealthy.So we let him eat cereal.Today if we were to do that – we would have been investigated for “abuse” in the form of negligent nutrition.Give me a break.
In another instance, I told one of my children to take their shoes off of the sofa or put their feet on the floor.This child got up and called the police – stating that I was abusive in making them feel uncomfortable.CPS had been at the school instructing the students that “anything” anyone says or does that makes them feel uncomfortable is considered “abuse” and they are to report any incident to CPS or the police.My asking them to remove their shoes made them feel “uncomfortable” and, therefore, they interpreted that as being a “fact” that I was being “abusive” to them.The same thing happened another time when I asked this child to push their chair in at the dinner table once they stood up to leave.The police showed up at my door because I had made my child “uncomfortable” which is a form of “abuse”.Again – are you freaking kidding me?I mentioned this ridiculousness to the CPS person who simply said, “Oh yeah, we tell the kids that so they can feel safe.”What?In other words, anything a parent asks a child to do (such as clean their room, take out the trash, unload the dishes, etc.) that the child does not want to do is grounds for the child to call either CPS or the police to report their parent for abuse.Do you ever get the feeling that this world has gone mad?But I’m getting away from the topic on hand – that being what does a parent of an abusive child do?
First off, let’s define the TRUE meaning of what constitutes abuse.
Abuse is a repeated act, either verbally or physically, rendered with the intentional design to inflict either emotional or physical harm to another.
The two things we need to focus on here are “repeated act” and “intentional”.What this means is that a parent can repeatedly tell a child to clean their room (since clearly once is never enough) but that repeated act is not an “intentional” design to inflict emotional or physical harm.It’s to instill cleanliness and orderliness and the understanding of how a family unit needs to work together on all levels, including taking care of the household and to learn to work within the laws of our land because there will always be someone telling them what they can and cannot do to fit into society as a whole.
Let’s face it that we all at times throughout our lives say things verbally to others that do inflict emotional distress but those times were not “intentional” but merely misguided and are rarely ever “repeated acts”.So if a person says something that affects your emotional state, you cannot simply cry out that they were being abusive.It doesn’t meet the criteria of actual abuse.
Clearly there are true incidents of abuse in the world and the cruelest being levied upon children but if you look to CPS, they will have you believe that the act of parental abuse is rampant when in truth – it is a very rare thing.The fact that CPS now deems anything a parent says that a child does not like is to be classified as being abusive will make CPS declare that abuse is on the rise.In fact, in one recent statistic I saw, CPS stated that one in every three households contains an “abusive” parent.Really?One in every three?How lame and, more importantly, how damning to millions of “innocent” parents.So if CPS deems anything a parent asks a child to do as being abusive – then what does it deem abusive that a child does to a parent?Answer:(And this came directly from a child psychologist – don’t get me started) – “Children cannot lie or be abusive.”Like – what planet does this person think their living on?And what’s this all about “bullying” in schools?
Unfortunately, far too many people seem to agree with the not-from-this-planet psychologist because as I began to research the internet for help available to parents who are victims of abusive children (both younger and older children), I could barely find a thing.Every time I would input “abusive child” the search engines would bring up “abusive parent”.It didn’t seem to matter how I would try and rephrase my search line to find assistance for abused parents, it always came up abusive parents or abused child.Come on now – my husband and I cannot be the only ones who have been subjected to abusive children who have committed “repeated acts” of “intentional” design to inflict emotional harm – and find delight in doing so.
It took me a while but I did find one blog where parents expressed their own frustration of not knowing what to do about their abusive child and not knowing where to go to get help.Talk about an ignored group of people who are in desperate need of some help – even if it’s just to have someone listen to them, understand their anguish, know that they are, in fact, being abused by their child or children and who need reassurance that their parental acts of caring did not and do not warrant the treatment they receive from their children.That they are not the monsters their children would like them to believe and who delight in telling others how horrific their parents are just to get more digs in and to alienate their parents from other family members and friends.And, I’m sorry, but the repeated responses I saw given to these parents who were seeking help was to either eliminate the child from their life or to be extra “sweet” to the child.Those responses are simply not viable answers.In fact, they’re quite lame.This is not a one size fits all situations problem.
Being a parent of abusive children, I have felt my own share of total and complete frustrations.It’s like no one really understands and you feel totally alone and start thinking something is wrong with you.I have even asked God why he has allowed this and then one day I got to thinking – how many of God’s children abuse him?If anyone knows how we feel – believe me He DOES!So my next question was – how do we get support for each other?That one is a little more tricky because I’m still not sure of how to obtain the resources but I figured I’d start out by writing this blog post.I’m opening the door to all those parents who have been and who are being abused and feel that they have no where to turn.I don’t have answers for you – I’m trying to find my own answers – but I’d like you to feel free to comment here and know that there is someone at least willing to listen – sometimes that’s all we really need.Maybe in time, if enough come and vent – we can begin to work together to help each other.Maybe I’m a little over optimistic in this pursuit but for now – I’m offering you a sounding-off platform.I hope you take advantage of it and come to realize that you are not alone.We know - we feel – we understand.
By now just
about every American has heard or read the stories littered throughout the
media that presidential hopeful Mitt Romney was a supposed “bully” in high
school. Oh what a black mark! Oh how horrific! Oh how damning this is to his entire
credibility as a human being! To you I
say, “Are you freaking kidding me? Are you
that juvenile? Are you that so lowly desperate
that you have to stoop to playground finger pointing?” Have you ever heard the phrase, “He who lives
in a glass house shouldn’t throw stones?”
If you
honestly believe that one or two single acts done knowingly or unknowingly in
your childhood, whether that be preschool, elementary school, middle school or
high school – heck even college, should define you as a human being throughout
your entire life regardless of what you have done with your life - then, by
golly, every single human being on the planet is a scoundrel unfit to hold any
position in any career because there is not one single solitary human who has
not at one time or another bullied someone else, knowingly or unknowingly. You can deny that you’ve ever bullied anyone
but that would simply be untruthful whether you want to admit it or not. We ALL have bullied. However, because we have bullied at one time
or another in our lives does not make us a bully. By definition, a bully is one who consciously
and perpetually instigates inappropriate behaviors, both physically and
verbally, against another with no emotional regard to what harm such acts may
or may not be inflicted.
The story
going around that Mitt Romney bullied a student in high school by cutting off
locks of his hair is just another absurd attempt by the leftists to try and smear
a candidate who has no blaring, tarnishing skeletons that can be dangled in
front of the voting public to help steer voters to lean towards their very
questionable, still unresolved legally eligible, communistic, Marxist,
anti-American, mobster loving candidate Barack Obama – himself an admitted
bully.
Naturally
this story has brought out the overzealous mental health “supposed” experts who
have to put their warped, unfounded, unproven two cents worth in by saying that
the high school student who was the supposed victim of this one time incident
was mentally distraught throughout the rest of his life. Leftists have gleefully jumped on board of
this fanatical bandwagon. Of course, the
young man in question died in 2004 from liver cancer and cannot, therefore, be
questioned to clarify whether or not the incident itself ever actually occurred
or that he was irreparably harmed by it.
In fact, the original source of the story who first stated that they
witnessed it and participated in it came forward to say that, in fact, they
only “heard” about the incident bringing into question whether it ever actually
occurred. In addition, the family of that
former high school student has spoken out publicly in support of Romney,
denying that the incident took place and, on the half chance that it might
have, the young man never spoke of it, would have been enraged today to hear
that it was being used to “bully” a running candidate for office (“two wrongs
never make a right”), and that he lived a very fulfilling life right up to his
death – showing no mental distraught from that or any other incident.
Bullying is,
in fact, a normal, emotional behavior that is exhibited by everyone while in
their youthful years. It is a part of
defining how you will eventually fit into society. There are, however, many different facets of
bullying and because of that you cannot simply classify every single incident
of bullying as being mean spirited.
Sometimes loners who find it hard to “fit in” in a peer group begin to
bully to disguise their feelings of loneliness.
Sometimes someone has been pushed to a limit and they need to strike
back. For example, when I was in
elementary school there was a boy whose lunch was stolen from him every
day. No one knew who was doing the
stealing. In an attempt to find out the
culprit or culprits, this young boy began to add a dye to his food. The dye caused mild diarrhea that was bluish in
coloring. It didn’t take long before
everyone knew who the culprits were.
Some may say that he “bullied” back but I can tell you this much, his
lunch was never stolen again. His act of
“bullying” resolved a negative behavior inflicted by others. Some bullying is really no more than playful
pranks. Some pranks can be really funny
– others not so much so. Again, pranks
are merely another form of social communication and by far, more often than not,
the prankster and the pranked person wind up becoming friends. No one is emotionally distraught for the rest
of their lives.
There are
incidents of extreme, unending, manipulative, egregious incidents of bullying
that can lead to extreme cases of mental and physical harm to others. These incidents cannot be allowed to
continue. In many cases, persons who
exhibit this form of bullying wind up in a prison somewhere – not as a school
principal, a CEO of a business or a candidate for president of the United States. But the Leftists are pulling for straws to
try and discredit an opponent who is proving to be a very formidable threat to
their progressive movement. No one will
be surprised by whatever other little straw they will pull as the campaign
heads into the last final months.
They’re running scared and they must do all that they can to try and
make the voting public forget the disastrous nature our country is in – due
mostly from the unethical, unconstitutional actions of the sitting
administration. They have not reached
their goal yet to make us a martial law nation with a sitting dictator but they
will fight to the bitter end to attain it.
Our duty is to not be distracted by their feeble attempts. Our duty is to not let this administration
“bully” us into silence.
If there is one word that I choke on more than any
other word it would have to be the word “tolerance”. The word is like a wolf in sheep’s
clothing. It gives the illusion of being
harmless, innocent, even pleasant – in fact, it has even been touted as the act
of displaying a godlike quality – and yet, in truth, it is anything but. I find it really difficult to understand why
so many people do not understand or see this plainly.
There is hardly a day that goes by
that this word is not uttered in the pretext of something that should be
“accepted” if not “agreed with.” We must
be “tolerant” of others’ lifestyles. We
must be “tolerant” of others’ beliefs.
We must be “tolerant” of others’ moral behaviors. We must be “tolerant” of others’
customs. The list goes on and on. And yet, on the other hand, we are also
bombarded with the phrase “We have a ZERO TOLERANCE policy.” Kind of gets you wondering what is going on
here. We are to be tolerant but we are
to have no tolerance? What the heck does
that mean? I’ll tell you what it
means. We are to be tolerant of others –
no matter what their religious, moral, cultural ideals are but we are not to in
turn reveal our own religious, moral, cultural ideals that are based on the
laws of nature and on the laws of God because our beliefs “offend” those who do
not support those values. In other
words, we had better support their values and then shut up.
Not that long
ago I was reading through some older magazines – kind of getting a feel of how
much our society – our world – has changed over just the past few decades. While reading, I came across an amazing
quote. The quote was given by Ezra Taft
Benson in the Ensign Magazine in December of 1971. The quote reads:
“Tolerance
is a word valuable in the service of Satan.”
I read that
quote over and over again. It was a
simple statement and yet it is strikingly profound. It hits the nail straight on the head of the
truth of this word’s purpose.
There is a tremendous misconception of the meaning of the
word tolerance in our modern day society – not out of innocent ignorance but
from sheer manipulative design to be deceptive of its true aim.
In the early days of
television, censorship was a massive part of what aired. This massive censorship resulted in the fact
that all shows were “family” friendly.
The entire family could gather together around their TV sets and watch
whatever show was on. It made life look
simple and pleasant and at the same time it presented storylines that instilled
positive values. However, after just a
few years, people both in the entertainment industry and those from without,
began to demand shows that were a little more realistic – so to speak. The realism they focused on was language and
before long words such as “hell” and “dam” began to be uttered on the
tube. Because of this change, television
shows were divided into two categories – family oriented and primetime. The primetime shows had a little more leeway
for those who could “tolerate” it.
They were
right – we did “tolerate” the incorporation of “mild” profanity to the point
that we didn’t even notice it anymore.
That led to the next phase and the push to slip in more and more vulgar
profanities. It was done so subtly at
first and before long – no word was untouchable on primetime. A new slew of ratings cropped up to try and
advise the audience of content but the rating system is mostly a sham. Today, even during the “family friendly”
television time slots, nearly every single profane word is uttered on a daily
basis. Walk by any elementary, middle or
high school and you’ll hear the results of this freely used “tolerated”
behavior in our youth. I grew up in the
60’s and 70’s and I can tell you that no one outside of the harshest bullies
spoke the way the entertainment media displayed. Today, even the most cherubic, innocent
looking child of 3, 4 or 5 years of age easily strings one profanity after the
other.
Profanity, however, was not the
only area where society was fed a small morsel that could be tolerated. Morality issues were also introduced and intricately
entwined into our daily exposure so much so that today, even children’s
cartoons exhibit sexual content – sometimes even to an extreme graphic state
and all because we grew to “tolerate” each little morsel that was sent our way. With the degradation of morality the doors
were opened wide for those who espoused “live your life whatever way you want
and nobody better say anything that would make you feel uncomfortable. We have a ZERO TOLERANCE policy on that.”
Of course in a society with a ZERO
TOLERANCE policy on curtailing profanity and immorality you have to live under
a ZERO TOLERANCE policy on religion.
Religion, on all fronts, must be attacked, crushed and eventually
eliminated. “Tolerance is a word
valuable in the service of Satan.” Does
this now begin to make sense? We have
“tolerated” ourselves away from God – away from goodness – away from loving one
another and have enslaved ourselves into Satan’s army where you will find that
he has a ZERO TOLERANCE policy.
Now for those of you who say,
“Aren’t we supposed to be tolerant of others who may have a different value
system?” The answer is that we are to
“allow” others to make their own choices.
Each and every human being who has ever walked this planet or who will
ever walk this planet has been given the gift of free agency – the right to
choose for himself or herself whatever actions or non-actions they will take –
whether those actions be good or be bad – the choice is up to them. It is not our “right” to deny those
choices. However, it is our “obligation”
to show and instruct the person to do the right thing but it is not our “obligation”
to make them do it. If you live a
different lifestyle that I do not agree with – that I do not accept – that I
most definitely do not “tolerate” - then it is my duty to allow you to do so
just as it is your duty to allow me to live the way I see fit. Everyone has the “right” to choose but what
no one has the right to choose is the consequences that come with that choice.
“Tolerance is a word valuable in the service
of Satan.” Satan is now experiencing the
fruits of his labor. He has won many
battles. Are we going to sit back and
let him win the war? The only way that
can be done is to STOP “tolerating” and start teaching the values we have lost
because without those values – we are all doomed.
What are the
qualifications to be the President of the United States of America?According to the U.S. Constitution, Article
II, Section 1, there are three factors.These include: (1) you MUST be a natural born U.S.
citizen; (2) you MUST be at least 35 years of age; and (3) you MUST have lived
in the United States
for 14 years.There have been numerous
debates on what constitutes natural born but in the Supreme Court’s opinion,
natural born was defined as being born in the United States, or in one of its
territories, to parents who were also both natural born citizens.Regardless of the debate on this issue, to
qualify as being naturally born, an individual must have been born either on U.S. soil, in a U.S.
province/territory, or on U.S.
diplomatic land, i.e., a military
base.A U.S. citizen who travels abroad
and then gives birth in a foreign country falls into a different category, i.e., any child born to a U.S. citizen
in a foreign land obtains dual citizenship of the birth land and the motherland
of the parents.This brings us to
another question.Can a person with dual
citizenship become President of the United States?The unequivocal answer to that is NO.To have divided loyalties to two separate
nations is dangerous and our Constitutional laws were established in such a way
as to prohibit such splintering of loyalties to head this nation.
The debate
over whether or not Barack Obama II is a natural born U.S. citizen has been bantered about a bazillion
times since the possibility that he might actually have the chance to become
the President of the United
States of America.This topic could have been easily resolved
and put to rest had Obama not been so downright obnoxious and belligerent in
not producing his birth certificate as is required to prove eligibility to run
for the highest office of our land.Hospital records are conflicting and, therefore, are completely
unreliable and untrustworthy.His own
grandmother and older siblings have affirmed that Obama II was, in fact, born
in Kenya.They were proud of this fact and had
absolutely no reason to lie about it.His father was a citizen of Kenya.Even Obama himself does not dispute
this.Although his mother was a U.S. citizen, having given birth to Obama II in Kenya automatically gave him dual citizenship –
effectively eliminating any possibility of him being eligible to become the
President of the U.S.After scrambling for several years, Obama II
finally produced a birth certificate that was quickly established as a fake but
I am not going to debate that issue here.Ineligible or not, he now sits at the head of this country.
True
Americans are proud to be Americans.We
live (or lived) in the greatest nation that ever was.This is not to say that America is
perfect but it is the best established nation in the world.We understand our weaknesses and we work hard
on strengthening them.We do not
apologize to any other nation for who and what we are but we will gladly assist
them when they are in need.America has
always assisted other lands even when those have spewed hatred at us.Oh how easily they reach out to us with one
hand and eagerly take what we offer and with the other hand they throw muck at
us because of their ignorance and lack of respect and tolerance to our way of
life.This, again, is a topic that will
need its own set of blog postings.My
point here is that Americans are proud of who they are and their heritage and
displaying one’s own birth certificate of that heritage falls into that category.Why then was Obama so opposed to presenting
his birth certificate?Every U.S. citizen
must present a certified copy of their birth certificate to obtain a driver’s
license, to be able to register to vote, to get married and to obtain a
passport. Did Obama refuse to produce a
birth certificate during each of these junctions in his life?He couldn’t do any of these without one – so
what did he present?
There is one
fact and one fact only and that is that Obama’s real birth certificate would
have revealed that he did not qualify for the office of the Presidency.But like he has done on numerous occasions
since he fraudulently obtained the office, he chose to ignore his
ineligibility.He, like so many of his
devoted, worshiping followers, decided that he was above the laws of this land
– that the laws prohibiting his eligibility were baseless and, at the very
least, needed to be changed to his way of thinking.However, the law was written precisely to
prevent men like Obama from stealing this country and usurping its power and
integrity.Once you tamper with the
magnificently, inspired doctrines of our Founding Fathers, you begin your
decent into the very pits of a fiery hell.
In order to
divert facts, Obama’s cronies commandeered the racist card – accusing anyone
who did not or would not support him as being a racist.Grow-up!You have played that card far too many times for it to mean a damned
thing.I personally don’t care if he
were black, white, yellow, green, pink, purple, orange, indigo or
whatever.The color of his skin has
absolutely nothing to do with the fact that he DID NOT meet the eligibility
requirements – PERIOD.You can whine all
you want about whether or not our presidential requirements are fair or not –
that’s due to the great freedom of speech that we enjoy (but which this
administration is meticulously whittling away) but whining changes nothing.The man is a fraud!But the fraud couldn’t have gotten to where
he is without our complacency – without our lack of caring about our country –
without the lack of understanding history and how those who ignore their
history are doomed to repeat it.He is
in office not because he won but because we, as a whole, failed our nation.
Who really is
Barack Obama II?He most certainly is not
who he has professed himself to be.Far
too many valid and well researched evidence has come forth, including
information on his criminal activities, his communistic connections, his
Marxist upbringing, the plethora of false identities he has lived under with
the use of numerous, fraudulent social security numbers, his hatred for this
country (openly expressed on numerous occasions), his attack on the American
people who hold to the U.S. Constitution and all those who died defending it,
his total disregard of Congress and the executive process by continually
ignoring the will of the majority of the people by spewing out executive order
after executive order – an act only a tyrant, want-to-be dictator, would dare
to do.I have heard and read several
articles and postings from people who support Obama’s actions saying he needs
to ignore the process to take action – but – be very careful of what powers you
are willing to give him.The more power
a person is given – the more corrupt that person will become.Obama will more than likely not relinquish
that power and if you don’t wake up soon – you – you who support him – will
find yourselves crushed under it.Beware
of the false idol you are worshiping.
So that
brings me to the 2012 Presidential election.Unless you’ve been living under a rock your entire life, it has been
well documented through the quatrains of Nostradamus, the Mayan temples and the
Egyptian pyramids, to name a few, that 2012 is predicted to be the end of the
world.Many believe this to be the case
but whether or not you believe it or not, most people do believe that 2012 will
bring about a significant change to our world.We have been warned about these times through past prophets.The outlook is not good.How much of that outcome will be centered
around Barack Obama II?
Personally, I
do not think that Obama will give up the presidency.This term has merely been a precursor to what
is to come.You can look at the current
polls but polls are tainted.One recent
poll indicated that Obama had a 7% lead over Mitt Romney.What was not disclosed about that poll,
however, was that of the 800 or so people polled, only 16 were
Republicans.Heck, no wonder Obama
looked like he was leading.However,
considering that 784 plus were Democrats, the fact that he was leading by only
7% is downright laughable.For the most
part, even Democrats have seen the disastrous job Obama has done, the loss in our
freedoms during his presidency and the future our country will face should he
be re-elected.The plain and simple
truth is – MOST Americans do not support him. But as he has already proven – support or not
– he is going to do exactly what he wants to do regardless.He is going to continue his campaign to
enslave us all.It only takes a small
morsel of common sense to see this truth written on the wall.
Will the 2012
election even take place?I sometimes
wonder - perhaps only as a facade to a more diabolical plan.Right now – today – if we were to hold an
election, Obama would lose by a landslide.He knows it and his cronies know it.Mark my words – come this election day - voter fraud by the leftists
will be rampant to the likes that this country has never seen.The election results will be a lie.
On the
chance, however, if Americans and the leftist slanted media are willing to step
up to the plate and protect the voters, refuse to doctor numbers, refuse to be
bullied and stand firm in sending a message to Obama and his administration in
Washington and Mitt Romney wins – do not be surprised if Romney never takes
office.Why?Because Obama will pull a crisis out from his
sleeve.He is already looking into it
and he has many fronts to pull from such as the tensions building in North Korea, the global economy, unrest in the Middle East – you name it.He will invoke martial law – stopping any
change in power.The gloves will be off
then and Heaven help us all.2012 will not
be the end but it will most definitely be the beginning of the end.The beginning of a darkened period this world
has never witnessed before.Can we turn
it around?Like I said in Part 1 of this
blog posting, I wonder if we haven’t already passed the point of no return.
For those who
think that I am off my rocker and are looking forward to the day when they can
a tell me how wrong I was – to you I say, “I hope and pray that you are right –
I want to be wrong!”But to you I also
say, “You had better hope and pray that I am not right.”
